Why We Appreciate

The journey of embracing femininity is as unique as the women who walk it. For me, books have been my guiding lights—they’ve shown me how to redefine strength, understand love, lean into softness, and honor my boundaries. Below, I’m sharing my favorite books on femininity, why I love them, and how their wisdom has shaped my life.

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1. All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks

Why I Recommend It:
bell hooks redefines love, not as a fleeting feeling but as a deliberate action rooted in care, respect, and accountability. She tears apart the romanticized ideals we’ve been taught and rebuilds love as a transformative force, starting with self-love.

How It Helped Me:
This book taught me that love isn’t about proving myself to anyone—it starts with self-respect. hooks’ words gave me clarity in setting boundaries and understanding unconditional love, especially for myself. It also deepened how I show up for others authentically, aligning perfectly with my passion for storytelling and meaningful connection.

2. The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer

Why I Recommend It:
This book dives into inner freedom, guiding you to release the mental chatter that keeps you stuck. It’s for anyone ready to let go of self-doubt and live fully in the moment.

How It Helped Me:
Singer’s insights helped me detach from negative self-talk and break free from the narratives that told me I wasn’t good enough. This book felt like pressing “reset” on my inner world—it taught me to nurture my feminine energy by staying calm, present, and open to life’s flow.

3. Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov

Why I Recommend It:
The title grabs attention, but the heart of this book is all about self-respect and boundaries in relationships. It’s a reminder to stay true to yourself while attracting healthier connections.

How It Helped Me:
This book helped me unlearn the belief that overgiving equals love. Instead, I learned that standing firm in my value naturally aligns me with people who truly respect and appreciate me. Its lessons were a big part of my journey to reclaim self-worth and honor my boundaries.

4. The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating by David M. Buss

Why I Recommend It:
If you’ve ever been curious about why people behave the way they do in relationships, Buss breaks it all down. This book combines science and psychology to explain attraction and human connection.

How It Helped Me:
Understanding the biology and psychology behind love and attraction lifted a lot of unnecessary guilt and pressure I carried around relationships. It helped me make decisions from a place of alignment with my values rather than societal expectations.

5. For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn

Why I Recommend It:
This book provides an insightful, compassionate look into men’s emotions and behaviors. It’s a guide to improving understanding and communication in relationships. IT'S SIMPLY THE BEST

How It Helped Me:
It gave me tools to better understand the men in my life—romantic partners, friends, and even family. This deeper awareness strengthened my empathy and communication, allowing me to approach situations with more patience and grace.

Each of these books has helped me see myself in a new light as a woman. They’ve taught me to embrace the softness and strength that coexist in femininity, to rewrite my story when it no longer serves me, and to align with what feels authentic.

If any of these books resonate with you, I encourage you to pick one up and dive in. It'll truly transform you view.

With love,

Cindy